Tuesday, May 3, 2022

What went wrong on your wedding day? 💒 👰‍♀️

What went wrong on your wedding day? 💒 👰‍♀️ Was the meme posted on the Facebook page of my long-time  friend, Kohn Case III today. My response:


When we left the reception in our 1956 Porsche, we made it all the way from Kingston to New Brunswick (remember the old RT. 1 traffic circle?). Connie asked me, do you have the Travelers’ Cheques?!” Oops, no!  Zip around the circle back to Kingston. Good! Got the cheques. Now back to New Brunswick. At the light by the old J&J ESDP facility, a Mustang with 4 young men in it pointed at my car and made some disparaging comments about it. Green light! I punch the gas pedal, first gear to redline. Shift! Second gear to redline. Shift….SHIT! I can’t get it out of second. Bent something in the shifting fork on the transaxle. No gears coasting or 2nd. I pull over, pop the cover off the transaxle access port. Wiggle some metal. No joy. Manage to get grease on Connie’s new getaway dress. She’s super pissed off, not only because I forgot our travel money, blew up the transaxle “racing,” but now I’ve ruined her dress. 


Howard Johnson’s Motor Hotel at Routes 1 and 18 was a sad place to start our honeymoon trip to Sturbridge Village and Boston. 


I forgot to mention, we limped back to her parent’s house, unpacked the Shop Rite bags we stuffed into the Porsche (which had no trunk) and put them in her 1967 Mercury Comet Caliente with its 289 cid V-8 and not much gas. 


How we survived that night and went to celebrate 43 years of mostly wedded bliss is testament to her deserved sainthood and my everlasting purge in Dante’s Hell.


Monday, May 22, 2017

My 1970 Wedding in Kingston, NJ

Margaret B. “Peggy” Wesp’s Wedding Plan – June 20, 1970

As I was going through stuff from the attic in my house, I have encountered many treasures: professionally framed oil paintings by my maternal grandmother that she created after she retired to Mesa, AZ and perfected her craft; photographs of long-gone relatives of Connie’s throughout the decades; and, a scrapbook that Connie began to build on or shortly after the day we first met.  More about that last later in another installment.

First, I want to share the prize that I found today in the form of a yellow pad, a number of envelopes, and, within those envelopes, receipts for nearly everything associated with our wedding reception! That’s right, my mother-in-law (or my wife) never tossed out the minutiae that chronicled that precious day in our lives!

So, I’m going to share with you what I found (and never knew before today, 47 years after the event!)

The Kingston Volunteer Fire Company provided their hall. I did not find a bill so I would have suspected that, since Connie’s mother, Peggy Wesp and her maternal grandmother, Catherine Brabson, were members of the Ladies Auxiliary, there would not have been a charge for the use of the hall.  However, the budget lists $40.00 for the Firehouse and $15 for the use of the kitchen.

Joseph Scasserra of 1096 Ottawa St., North Brunswick, NJ 08902 provided the following:

128 Dinners @ $4.60 per person
$588.80
Rental of tablecloths & napkins
$20.00
Paper Cups for punch
$3.00
Rental of punch bowls
$5.00
ICE (via Mr. Teague of Princeton)
$10.00
TOTAL
$626.80

Cake Specialties of 161 Throop Avenue, New Brunswick, NJ provided the all-white wedding cake. Their part was $106.25 – the cake cost $65.00 with an added charge of $5.25 for the vanilla custard filling. They also delivered $36.00 worth of cookies (no amount specified). The hand-written budget mentions “Santisi’s Cake Shop.”

Ken Smith Studio was our photographer. He hailed from Hendrickson Drive in Princeton Junction, NJ 08850 and his fee included the price of the service plus:

Wedding Album
$215.00
One 8X10 in a folder
$10.00
Four 4X5 prints in Folders
$14.00
One Parents Album
$29.50
Subtotal
$268.50
Sales Tax
$13.43
Gross Amount
$281.93
Less deposits paid
$150.00
Amount due
$131.93

There are receipts for two $75.00 deposits paid before and after the wedding itself. A hand-written note on the itemized list above reads, “Paid. Ken Smith. Thank You”

No wedding would be complete without a florist and this one was no exception. Flowers by Evelyn, at 117 West Ward Street, Hightstown, N.J., lists the following items (without dollar signs):

Bride’s Bouquet
15.00
3 attendants 12.00 @
36.00
Bride’s mother carn. & roses
3.50
Groom’s mother carn
2.50
2 Grandmothers carn. & soc
5.00
6 carn. Bouts.
3.00
Altar flowers
20.00
White carpet
15.00
13 centerpieces 2.50 @
32.50
4 white candles
1.00

133.50
Tax
6.68

140.18

The most impressive document is the “Contract Blank” from the American Federation of Musicians of the United States and Canada. My father-in-law, Phil Wesp, was a union carpenter all his adult life, so one would expect him to honor the union tradition and hire only union musicians!  This “Band or Group” called the “Johnny Ray Orchestra” belonged to Local Number 204. The location and the date are listed, as well as the following notation: “Music to start at 6 PM to 10 PM.”  The “WAGE AGREED UPON $” (yes, it’s all in upper case letters on an otherwise mixed case document) is $135.00.

Another piece of yellow pad lists the amount for the Music by Johnny Ray as $175.00. Apparently, the Wesp’s final budget did not allow for an extra hour, which would have cost an additional $40!

Did I mention that the envelope with the contract bears a common error?  It’s addressed to Mr. Phillip West, rather than Wesp!  The smiling left profile of President Franklin D. Roosevelt, embossed on a 6 cent United States postage stamp helped the misprinted envelope find its way from 3142 Highway 27, Kendall Park, New Jersey 08824 down the road a couple of miles to Laurel Avenue in Kingston.

Other items on the budget sheet, in Peggy’s perfect Palmer Method script list $35.00 to St. Paul’s Church (which I suspect was the honorarium for the priest), Wine @ $17.00, Liquor @ $130.00, Anne Tocco (for playing organ) $25.00, and a brief memo to “ask Armand for glasses.” The bartender budget was $20 for the 4 hours of the reception.

Additionally, there are reminders to get “Pretzels, Pot. Chips, Drips (sic), Crackers.” All this was to be delivered to the firehouse by 12:30 PM on Saturday, June 20, 1970. 

Peggy and her daughter were inveterate list-makers.  Their list also included the invitations, stamps and place cards, although no amounts are evident. I found about 30 place cards but kept only a few as “souvenirs” since I don’t remember ever seeing them before!

The menu was quite nice, on paper, although my recollection of the actual meal is pretty sketchy. If it didn’t show up in the wedding album, I’m probably not likely to recall much about the details of the day!  I can’t remember whether I had anything to drink which might lead to memory loss, or if I just don’t remember because it was a long time ago.

Whatever. Here’s what’s on the yellow pad:
  • ·         Fresh Fruit w/Sherbert (sic)
  • ·         Tossed salad w/French Dressing
  • ·         Roast Beef
  • ·         Baked Potato Mashed Pot (yes, the original starch was scratched out and replaced)
  • ·         French style Green Beans w/almonds
  • ·         Vanilla Ice Cream
  • ·         Wedding Cake
  • ·         Coffee
  • ·         Rolls & Butter
  • ·         Celery, Olives & Radishes


Apparently, they changed the guest list and knocked off 5 people because the menu caps out at “123 Dinners” vs. the 128 above. Or perhaps 5 more were added after this list was written.  We’ll never know!

Recapping, the total cost of our shindig (not including any incidentals that are not detailed here) works out to be about $1,572.16. For 128 guests, that works out to a seemingly frugal $12.28 per person!

Just for kicks, I looked up the US Inflation Calculator website to see what $12.28 corresponds to in 2017 dollars.  (http://www.usinflationcalculator.com) is the site.  That same dozen dollars would require an expenditure of a reasonable $77.39 – because, according to their algorithm, the cumulative rate of inflation since then works out to be about 530.2%!





Friday, March 21, 2014

My friends at Packt Publishing have an exciting new Buy One, Get One Free promotion, to celebrate their 2,000th title.  See this link below for details!  I have their books on Oracle Data Integrator (both) and Oracle GoldenGate (all) in my professional library.  Build yours today!

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Monday, February 24, 2014

The folks at Packt Publishers Twittter: @packtpub have a new video series that's worth exploring. I've had a chance to review the Oracle Data Integrator (ODI) title.  The ODI Title from @packtpub by Andreas Nobbmann is well-produced and technically accurate. http://bit.ly/1i8k1jr  has complete info.  It is very reasonably priced for the value it provides.

This publisher has two other books about Oracle Data Integrator that you will find are extremely well-written and quite popular in the Oracle world.  Check them out.

http://www.packtpub.com

Saturday, October 19, 2013

Back Home in Tears

I knew it would come to this: I'd go away for a couple of weeks, try to cope as best as can be expected (maybe better) and, despite my predictions to the contrary, come home to this empty house - this shell devoid of Connie's warmth. At least my son was here to greet me warmly; for that I'm truly grateful. But then I got the mail.

The mail.

A pile a foot or more deep. Letters. Sympathy cards. Catholic Mass cards. There are letters from those benefiting from the largess of our friends. Overwhelming love and caring seeps through as I slash through each envelope, tearing and clawing at the rough paper to unveil the uniqueness conveyed by each correspondent. The tears come easily. The missing is amplified. The pain of loss is almost too much for the heart. They call it grief. I prefer despair.

And yet, somehow, the mail confirms. It fills the emptiness of house and converts it to a home again. It's filled with blessings, with happy people remembering this beautiful soul that I was all too fortunate to love for so long. For too short a time.

My distress is dampened a bit. Perhaps it's from the tears trailing down my cheeks, cooling, soothing, as if they were some indeterminate potion. It reminds me of how many lives were touched and transformed by knowing her. By working with her. By loving her.

I vow to add another post, another update to a tale worth telling. I hope to find a fresh phrase that expresses thanks in my own way. Fighting off cliches, I beg forgiveness for delaying my response. I promise to subdue despair. I pledge to read the mail.

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Boy and Car





Left: Gerry N2GJ in front of his old 1978 Toyota (which was brand new when this photo was taken!)

Right: Gerry N2GJ sitting at his ham shack in Kingston, NJ in 1978. This photo became the picture on his QSL card (he bought 1,000 of them and still has a few left!) Note the Kenwood TS-520, D-104 microphone, RCA Tac-Tec handi-talkie, The SBE-144 2-meter transceiver and the CDE Rotor box (that drove my Ham-M rotor that turned my TA-36/40 beam). OH, and the "Not a CB'er" bumper sticker....

My Favorite Airplane of All Time


Here is a photo of a model built by Ron Peterka of Ramona, CA. I saw a picture of this plane (a Ryan STA) in a magazine and wrote to him to say how much I liked it. He sent me an original photo of it (along with a gorgeous photo of a model Gee Bee racer he also built). This is a 1/6th scale model. I hope you like it as much as I do!

I believe Steve Pitcairn (of the autogiro family fame) actually owns an original STA -- at least I remember seeing a photo of him flying one on the cover of an airplane magazine a bunch of years ago.

Memo from Lewis F. Kornfeld, Jr.


I once wrote a letter to the head of Radio Shack. At that time, this was Lewis F. Kornfeld, Jr. He wrote this hand-written note back to me that said:

To: Jeri
Date 3/12/1980

Thanks for your interesting clipping!!

The Ham business just seems beyond our current intentions due to an insufficient population. Many of us hope that situation will change.

With 7600 world outlets, we really must stay with big movers and turnover. Imagine 7600 Collins floor samples?

Appreciatively,

Lew Kornfeld

My friend Al AA2H


This is a photo of my friend, Al AA2H, taken during ARRL Field Day back in 1978! He's really a great guy!

73,

GJ

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Reflections on Robert B. Parker's Death


Robert B. Parker died today: http://bit.ly/7Ji65A One of our favorite authors! RIP

Parker's most famous for his "Spenser for Hire" books. Other memorable mysteries featured Jesse Stone (played by Tom Selleck in made-for-TV films), and Sunny Randall. The female characters in his books were never shrinking violets.

I once saw them filming an episode of "Spenser" in Boston. I remember it took over an hour for a scene that was on TV about 15 seconds!

I used to write a column in the Princeton Packet papers and one day I was in the local ShopRite grocery store. A woman came up to me and said "I really enjoy your writing, would you mind giving me your autograph?" I replied "Sure, but I don't have anything to write with, let me borrow something from one of the cashiers."

I had no sooner gotten a pen and a slip of paper when I saw Avery Brooks (who played Hawk in the Spenser series) standing next to me in line. Catching my breath, I said something like "Wow, Professor Brooks, I can't tell you how much I enjoy your acting. Would you mind if I asked you for your autograph!?"

Meanwhile, I have no idea where that woman slipped off to, but she never did get mine!

I've posted a photo of part of our RBP collection. I will admit we never got into the non-mystery fiction, particularly the Western themed novels he wrote. However, we saw the movie "Appaloosa" and enjoyed that very much. I believe there may have been as many as three books that featured the characters Virgil Cole and Everett Hitch, the guns-for-hire of those stories.

I'm not 110% sure, but I think he always dedicated every book to the love of his life, his wife Joan. If I wrote as he did, I would do the same...to my wife, of course, not his.

Practical, easy-to-digest hands-on tutorial is a winner! Posted on Amazon July 25, 2012

This review is for:

Getting Started with Oracle Data Integrator 11g: A Hands-on Tutorial (Paperback)

Oracle Data Integrator is Oracle Corporation's premier software product for integrating data across an organization's lines of business. It addresses the need to move data among transaction processing systems, data warehousing implementations, business intelligence tools, master data management, so-called "big data," and the like. It is fully integrated with the Service Oriented Architecture (SOA) and Enterprise Data Quality.

As an instructor and consultant for the better part of my 40+ year professional career, I have always sought to share with my students value-added collateral that reinforces the lessons I teach them in the classroom (either through traditional or live virtual class settings). I've shared white papers, links to documentation both inside and outside of vendors' mind space and the results of personal research via email threads and blogs. I eagerly anticipate that someone will create a well-written primer that's driven by the needs of a critical mass of product users.

Such is the case with the new book, Getting Started with Oracle Data Integrator 11g: A Hands-on Tutorial. The authors of this practical, easy to digest, 384 page paperback (available also as an e-book) are directly involved with the development and support of the product known by its users simply as "ODI." They ostensibly avoided creating just another rehash of vendor documentation, opting instead to "accelerate your learning of ODI 11g" through hands-on lessons.

As they mention in the first few pages, they hope to "highlight the key capabilities of the product in relation to data integration tasks (loading, enrichment, quality, and transformation" by exposing the key productivity features inherent in a code generator that automates the implementation of much of the required logistics traditionally hand-coded in conventional ETL (Extract-Transform-Load) processes.

They illustrate sample use cases that transcend the mundane, offering examples that exploit a varied set of relational database tables, text files and XML (Extensible Markup Language) data. In keeping with their tutorial focus, they maintain an educational perspective, demonstrating how the features and functions of the tool are used in real-world situations. Their "number one goal is to get you familiar, comfortable, and successful" using the product. In my professional opinion, I believe that the entire book is faithful to their objectives.

With chapters that cover every critical topic from a brief but effective review of ODI terminology, architecture and concepts, through product installation, application development and administration, the authors provide a comprehensive look at the tool without bogging the reader down in minutia. They cover the use of database technologies like MySQL, Oracle database and Microsoft SQL Server. Best of all, the entire book has an enthusiastic tone. As they say, "If it is not obvious by the time you finish reading this book, we ODI 11gR1" (the emphasis on "really like" is theirs).

I, too, am a zealous devotee of ODI. I have worked with the product ever since Oracle Corporation acquired the French company known as Sunopsis a half-decade ago. Several of the authors were among those who developed and marketed what has evolved into Oracle Data Integrator 11g. I've taught well over 1,000 people how to be successful with ODI in those intervening years. I welcome this new book as an essential title in the library of every student I teach going forward. I will heartily recommend it to everyone "interested in, or responsible for, the content, freshness, movement, access to, or integration with data."

One final comment: I pride myself on being well-versed in ODI. I kept track of all the techniques and observations about this software that I may not have fully exploited, despite my experience. When I was finished reading the book, I had compiled a list of about a dozen features that were interpreted in significantly better ways than I've traditionally explained them! My hat's off to the team who wrote this excellent book!

(This book is available via http://www.amazon.com or directly from the publisher, Packt Publishing at the following URL):


http://www.packtpub.com/oracle-data-integrator-11g-getting-started/book

Paperback Edition: Getting Started with Oracle Data Integrator 11g: A Hands-on Tutorial

Kindle Edition: Getting Started with Oracle Data Integrator 11g: A Hands-On Tutorial

Location: Kingston, NJ (USA)

Monday, January 18, 2010

Spending MLK Day productively


Connie and I got up around 7AM today, showered and dressed and drove to the Dunkin' Donuts on US1 by Marshall's. After breakfast, we went to Staples where I bought the latest version of TurboTax Deluxe.

We dropped off an entire trunk of clothes that neither fit us nor suited our current tastes. Hopefully someone else can make good use of them. We basically cleared out a whole closet!

Then it was off to the MarketFair, where we browsed around Barnes & Noble, purchasing a gift for our niece Judy's little girl, Samantha. We window-shopped in a few of the stores, looking for housewares to complement our newly-painted living-and-dining rooms without success.

We ended up at Lowe's, where we got 3 fake wooden shelves, two 12-inch support sets, and one 16 incher. When we got home, we realized that we had spent a lot of time looking at the tops of the shelving to ensure there were no scratches, failing to realize that two of the three boards were cracked clear across on the bottom side! Pretty crappy indeed. So, back to the store to replace them (without question) and get two good ones. (It was a good thing I didn't need 3 - the last one of 3 was also cracked clear across). Makes one wonder about the quality, and who checks this stuff on their shelves.

Anyway, I was able to move all my Oracle memorabilia and awards, including my autographed books, Dilbert toys, and my treasured Star Wars Storm Trooper Proximity Alarm, to the new shelves. I have plenty of desk space now, and lots of fun stuff to look at.

I took a photo with my iPhone - it's not great, but you get the idea.

I spent about an hour or so cleaning up my Inbox for my work email, approving a couple of timecards & expense reports for my folks, and responding to a couple of messages.

Now I'm happily waiting for dinner -- Connie's making homemade crab cakes, sweet potato fries, and cauliflower with cheese sauce.

GJ

Friday, January 15, 2010

My Photo Gallery

I just updated my photo gallery to include a few photos about the painting project we just completed today. Precision Paint & Paper started Monday and finished before noon today. We did the living room, dining room and hallway.

http://www.gjurrens.com/oragallery/


I think they did a great job - great attention to detail, and a wonderful job cleaning up. Connie had a "punch list" which Steve worked through today cheerfully. We also got an estimate to do our bedroom, our bathroom and the foyer coming off the patio into the kitchen (and down the stairs to the basement).

Location: Kingston, NJ US

Thursday, January 14, 2010

Poem from NCIS: LA 1/13/2010

Quoted "Which I is I?" from:

In a dark time
Theodore Roethke

In a dark time, the eye begins to see,
I meet my shadow in the deepening shade;
I hear my echo in the echoing wood--
A lord of nature weeping to a tree,
I live between the heron and the wren,
Beasts of the hill and serpents of the den.

What's madness but nobility of soul
At odds with circumstance? The day's on fire!
I know the purity of pure despair,
My shadow pinned against a sweating wall,
That place among the rocks--is it a cave,
Or winding path? The edge is what I have.

A steady storm of correspondences!
A night flowing with birds, a ragged moon,
And in broad day the midnight come again!
A man goes far to find out what he is--
Death of the self in a long, tearless night,
All natural shapes blazing unnatural light.

Dark,dark my light, and darker my desire.
My soul, like some heat-maddened summer fly,
Keeps buzzing at the sill. Which I is I?
A fallen man, I climb out of my fear.
The mind enters itself, and God the mind,
And one is One, free in the tearing wind.
###

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Pacifico Beer Ad & Hams?

http://www.k0nr.com/wordpress/2009/10/pacifico-fake-ham-radio/

My son saw this ad while at the barber shop today & couldn't wait to tell his ham Dad when he got home. There are print & video versions apparently. 73 #fb


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Humor: Letter to Husband

This is an oldie but goodie!

http://jokemail.blogspot.com/2007/02/letter-to-my-husband.html

Be sure to read the P.S.!

So Happy It's Thursday!

GJ

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

George Strayline W2GSS

George joined us at the monthly meeting of the DVRA (Delaware Valley Radio Assn.) to speak to us about the state of the ARRL in the Southern NJ section.
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Location:Ewing, NJ

Painting

Dining room in the process of being painted. Furniture covered with tarps.







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Reviving Broken Crackers blog

Getting ready for dinner, then it's off to the DVRA meeting at 7:30 in Ewing. 73


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Location:Kingston, NJ US

Thursday, June 18, 2009

Cruise 2009

In the next few days, I will be posting notes I took during our cruise from San Juan to Aruba, Curacao, Dominica, St. Thomas and back to San Juan.

I was using a blog I set up a while ago (from my ISP) that ultimately did not meet my needs because I couldn't get their support people to respond to my request for information on how to delete spam postings that came onto the blog. I guess they're too busy over at Tellurian Networks to bother with simple customer questions. BTW, I followed up with a phone call and was told "Give it a few more days, it's not a priority issue." It's been two weeks!

So...let's see if this Google Blog function works better.